“Well yeah, of course there are things I want to do, but when exactly am I supposed to study French or work on my own business? When I come home from work I’m exhausted and have no energy left for anything. I just sit on the couch and watch TV.”
A client recently said this to me, and my heart went out to her: “I don’t have time” might be a fake excuse, but “I don’t have energy” is harder to unpack.
As introverts, we are the most energized when we’re not surrounded by constant stimulation.
Unfortunately, most workplaces today are biased toward extroverts, who thrive on exactly that: constant meetings with tons of people, open spaces with non-stop interactions and noise, after-work events at loud bars… (I can hear you sigh from behind my screen.)
I once had a job like that. I’d come home from work and by the time my mind felt like my own again, I had to go to work again!
I quit after three months.