This is it!
After many months of pondering, breaking down insidious invisible scrips and undertaking a soul-healing trip to South America, I am ready to launch my website and share with you what I learned and am learning on my journey towards reaching my Ambitious Introvert goals.
The word “ambitious” isn’t exactly the first one that comes to mind when talking about introverts. The usual image is that of a nerdy computer programmer who flounders, red-faced, when he has to get out from behind his laptop and talk to people IRL. Or maybe, in my case, that of a little girl hiding in the school library during recess to find solace among novels instead of facing the rowdy and boisterous crowds of energized kids noisily running around on the playground.
Yet ambitious we ought to be!
Most introverts quickly realize that while school might be a good environment for introverts (which teacher wouldn’t like a quiet, studious kid who does all her homework on time and never disturbs the class?), Life doesn’t waste any time showing every goody-two-shoes with good grades that nope, in this world it’s the extroverts who make it to the top.
It turns out – who’d have thought – that in most corporate environments, quietly sitting in a corner assiduously doing your work won’t get you where you want to be. On the contrary, while you’re still trying to figure out if anybody would notice if you spent ten extra minutes in the bathroom reading a book, your colleagues with the easy smiles and good conversation are getting all the interesting projects and promotions.
You know who I’m talking about: that smooth guy in the sharp suit who’s chatting up all the women while you’re drinking your fourth glass of liquid courage. Or the funny girl in the office who always has a crazy story to tell her rapt audience on Monday mornings while you slink to your seat hiding behind your coffee.
We’re left to hide out in the dark corners of the state-of-the-art open spaces, craving just ONE goddamn minute alone with our thoughts. How many of you have taken up a smoking habit just to have an excuse to get out? Or pretended to have a ridiculously small bladder just to account for the dozen or so bathroom breaks you take a day?
We have to stop reacting to the world around us. When did we stop being responsible for our own lives? We have no excuse to let someone else dictate how we live.
You can either choose to be upset that the world is unfair, or you can decide to take back the control over your life.
Be empowered. Make your own choices.
What does a rich life mean to you – a more fulfilling career where you are actually in the driver’s seat and can grow as a person? Better social skills so you can enjoy connecting with interesting people? More energy to actually pursue your hobbies once you’re home, instead of needing three hours to recuperate from a day full of exhausting interactions?
I used to be that kid who’d hide out in the school library. And OK, to be frank, I still hide in the bathroom at work sometimes.
But I have grown immensely over the past few years. After getting a Master’s degree in International Relations, I completely changed career directions and now work as a Business Analyst on digital solutions for a financial institution, where I have great financial stability and benefits. I have amazing mentors who inspire me and push me to explore more opportunities. I have a strong and supportive network of friends. I take care of my health, work out three times a week, cook my own meals and don’t eat sugar. I joined Toastmasters. I read six books a month. I study Spanish and Japanese.
And I’m one of my city’s only female volunteer firefighters!
All this to show you that it can be done. You can leverage your introvert skills and create a space where you, too, can shine and be happy with your ambitious goals.
On this blog, I will share the ups-and-downs of my journey, explore new areas of growth for me and document my attempts to carve out a space for us in this dang world that just won’t shut up. You are welcome to join me! Just sign up to my newsletter on the right and you’ll get every update straight to your inbox.